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Embracing Leadership: My Journey of Growth and Confidence


Throughout my life, I have never viewed myself as a leader, despite having achieved various things that might indicate otherwise. As a result, I haven't actively sought out leadership opportunities.

However, the fall of 1993 presented a unique turning point for me. Dancing had always been a passion, and I had even choreographed several routines. But that year, I did something quite out of character – I stepped up and asked for the opportunity to lead.

Back in graduate school, I regularly performed stepping routines with the undergraduate brothers. Our fraternity chapter had a tradition of collaborative efforts in creating step shows. Despite this, I took a leap and approached the new chapter president, expressing my interest in being the step master, the head choreographer. To my surprise, he agreed.

To this day, I am unsure what drove me to volunteer for this responsibility. Our chapter had a history of winning competitions, enjoying a five-year winning streak. Some questioned why I wanted to fix something that wasn't broken. However, I saw the potential for growth, and I believed I could guide the chapter to new heights, competing beyond the local level and aiming for regional and national recognition.

This decision marked a significant challenge for me, as I had never taken on such a leadership role before. I had taught and led routines in the past, but now I would be responsible for everything involved, leading a group of 18 to 20 male leaders, convincing them that my choreography and coordination would result in winning routines.

For the next two years, I served as the head choreographer, experiencing both ups and downs. There were moments of frustration when I faced criticism and even times when I was harsh in response. We celebrated some incredible successes and also encountered failures that left us questioning our choices.

Despite the challenges, what stands out most to me is the unwavering support of my fellow brothers. They never questioned my authority or made me doubt my capabilities. While they didn't shy away from expressing their opinions, they offered me their full support. They allowed me the space to make mistakes, and they committed to following my lead, even when my ideas seemed audacious.

Looking back, the greatest gift they gave me was not only the opportunity to lead but also the confidence to embrace my leadership journey. Amidst all the verbal bruises and resistance, their support was unwavering. Being surrounded by dynamic male leaders during that time taught me invaluable lessons about what it truly means to be a leader.

I discovered that the best growth opportunities arise when you're in proximity to great people who are determined to help you become better. Through this experience, I realized that I was surrounded by exceptional men who wouldn't have invested their time in someone they considered mediocre.

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