Have you ever witnessed someone gracefully redirecting another person while maintaining an air of professionalism, leaving them completely unaware of the redirection itself? The first time I truly grasped the concept was during my military service, alongside a fellow officer named Veronica. On a visit to Veronica's office to check in on her well-being, an interruption occurred. With a mere few sentences, Veronica adeptly guided the individual out of her office without them even realizing it.
The interaction unfolded so swiftly that I barely comprehended the situation. Veronica's approach was both polished and professional, so much so that it's doubtful the person even recognized her subtle redirection. This incident was a revelation that led me to observe a recurring pattern in her leadership style. She didn't resort to shouting or disrespect; instead, she possessed a remarkable ability to assert her boundaries in a quiet, yet impactful manner, making it clear she wouldn't tolerate unwarranted behavior.
This experience prompted me to reflect on the individuals I've encountered who possess the art of calmly yet firmly asserting themselves. I saw this quality in my uncle Gary, close friends like Butch and Will, and most notably, in my interactions with my father-in-law. It's a communication technique—a mechanism for conveying one's position and boundaries with remarkable efficiency. These individuals excel in navigating situations, subtly signaling that they won't be taken advantage of.
However, many of us struggle to communicate that we won't stand for mistreatment without resorting to aggression. Often, feeling disrespected, we gravitate towards the most confrontational response. What we fail to recognize is that there's an alternative path—gentle assertiveness.
True growth as a leader lies in acknowledging the array of tools at our disposal for asserting ourselves effectively. While there might be instances where taking the high road is the right choice, it's equally important to communicate that there are times when we won't tolerate being disrespected. The challenge is in mastering this skill—the ability to convey one's stance while maintaining dignity.
I consider myself fortunate to have observed this skill in action, which has contributed to my personal growth. Knowing that I have these role models who can equip me with the tools to ensure no one takes advantage of me is empowering.
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