Army ROTC Advanced Camp,
Ft. Riley, Kansas.
Summer 1990.
Cadet Anthony Reeves and friends
When people talk about “safe spaces,” the phrase can carry different meanings depending on the context. But for those who have ever been in the minority—whether due to race, culture, or background—the concept takes on a deeper significance. It’s not always about physical safety; it’s about the freedom to exist without constantly adjusting yourself to make others comfortable.
For many minorities, being in a predominantly majority space means carrying an unspoken awareness of how you are perceived. It’s about managing how you present yourself, how you speak, and even how you engage with others. But when you find a space where you can simply exist as yourself, without that filter—that’s when you truly understand the value of a safe space.
An Unexpected Safe Space in the Military
During the summer between my junior and senior years of college, I attended advanced camp for the U.S. Army as part of my training to become an Army lieutenant. Our company was split into several barracks, with each housing a platoon of roughly 40 cadets. In my platoon, there were about five or six African American cadets.
One thing many people don’t realize is that in the African American community, haircuts are a big deal. Many of us prefer to cut our own hair or trust someone from our community to do it. On college campuses, there’s usually that one guy who’s known for giving good cuts, and military training was no different.
To my surprise, two of my buddies in the company had actually brought their clippers to camp. During our limited downtime on weekends, they would cut their own hair—and then, word got out. Soon, other African American and even Hispanic cadets from other platoons started coming over to our barracks to get their hair cut too.
What happened next was something special.
In that tiny barracks bathroom, surrounded by the hum of clippers and the beat of a stereo playing tapes in the corner, we weren’t cadets anymore. We weren’t worried about competition, discipline, or how we had to present ourselves in the larger group. We were just a group of guys, hanging out, laughing, and waiting for our turn in the chair.
For that brief time, we had created our own safe space. A space where we weren’t adjusting our behavior to fit in. A space where we could just be.
The Misunderstanding of Safe Spaces
People often fail to appreciate why marginalized groups naturally gravitate toward one another in majority spaces. Some even accuse them of being divisive, as if choosing to spend time with those who share your experiences is an act of exclusion rather than connection.
But what many don’t understand is that being in the minority often means constantly adjusting yourself to fit into the majority’s comfort zone. It’s rarely the other way around. And after a while, that effort becomes exhausting.
Finding a space where you don’t have to translate your experiences, explain your jokes, or monitor your tone is a relief. It’s not about shutting others out—it’s about taking a break from being “on guard.” It’s about being able to drop the mask and speak freely. It’s about being unapologetically you.
Embracing and Respecting Safe Spaces
Looking back, I cherish those moments in the barracks because they were more than just haircut sessions. They were a reminder that even in structured, high-pressure environments, we all need a place where we can feel seen, understood, and at ease.
If you’ve ever been in a situation where you felt the need to alter yourself to fit in, then you understand the importance of safe spaces. And if you’ve never had that experience, I encourage you to recognize why they matter to those who seek them.
Creating safe spaces isn’t about division—it’s about belonging. It’s about having a place where, for a moment, you don’t have to be anything other than yourself.
What About You?
Have you ever found or created a safe space in an unexpected place? I’d love to hear about it in the comments. Let’s start a conversation about why these spaces matter and how we can respect them.
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