The dreaded call from your reputation defender

We all know the call. We all have that one person and I like that when they call, we know we are about to get our behind handed to us then I calling to shoot the breeze. They’re not calling to catch up with you in terms of how you’re doing. They are calling to put you in check for something you did that you probably should not have done.

And you dread the call. Dread it because instinctively you start analyzing everything you did and you were trying to figure out exactly what did you do wrong. You take a deep breath and then you answer the call.

And the call is never about what you think it is. You go down your mental Rolodex of everything you did and you think you were in a fight exactly what that is they are calling about and to your surprise you are wrong almost every time.

They are calling you about something so off your radar then when they bring it to your attention, all you can do is put your head down and say OK.

But something miraculous happens after every call. You are a better person for. Because the person is calling you not to be petty, and not to just give you some random thing or some vague reference to something that they think you did. They are very specific about what it is you did that they think You did right. They care about your reputation. They care about it so much that they are not willing to let time go by and allow you the opportunity to make that same mistake again. They want to jump on that thing as soon as possible so they want to get you while it’s fresh in your head and so that you will know exactly what it is you did you not ever do again.

You need to ask yourself a question do you have people like this in your life. Do you have people in your life who are willing to help you analyze the decisions and actions did you take so that you can become better than next time around? Do you have people care about your reputation so much that they are willing to do everything possible to make sure you take care of it as well

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