Why you should pay attention to your friend’s professions

When I ran my own law firm, I decided to use consultants in an effort to grow my firm. One of my good friends referred me to someone. He was very good. However, after a while, my wife (who was also my office manager) asked me a serious question:

“Why are you paying him to do for you what you have friends who do this already?”

I had to stop for a second. This guy was a business consultant who was speaking with me about marketing, bookkeeping, case development, business management, IT and accounting. I valued his opinion but when my wife asked me the question, i had to stop and ask myself, “Do I have friends who do this already??”

Of course, the answer was yes because, my wife said so. However, it was more than that. A lot of us feel that we don’t want to bother our friends in their chosen profession. We don’t want to be a burden. Unfortunately, what happens is that by keeping our lives so separate, we totally overlook the skills they have that can help us.

For instance, I have a fraternity who a marketing executive for an NFL football team. And he sat down talked to me about leveraging my social media accounts. I have another fraternity who is a CPA/Tax Attorney. One of my best friends is a maverick in the IT industry. And I had ALL KIND of friends who are gurus in case and business development.

And guess what? When I asked for their help, their first thing was “Why did it take you so long to ask?”

Recognize that you have a vast array of personal resources accessible to you. Your friends are truly a blessing. Don’t hold back from asking for their help. Trust me. You would help them if you could.

#motivation. #inspiration

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