How many times have you heard people say:
“I didn’t know it was a problem”.
Take your pick. It was something you said. It may have been something you wore. It may have been something you did. For whatever reason, the results of your actions caused someone pain or discomfort.
And then, your actions are brought to your attention. You are surprised about it. You are now aware of it. You genuinely want to change your actions.
However, you are confused about it. And that confusion causes you to become filled with questions:
Why is it a problem?
Why is it what I said or did a problem?
Who else has a problem with it?
It wasn’t a problem before so why is it a problem now?
But have you ever asked yourself this question about why you are struggling to understand the problem in your words or action?:
“Is the reason you are having a difficulty understanding the problem is because in YOUR world, you don’t think it’s a problem?”
And when I say “YOUR WORLD”, I am talking about your circle, your private network or your social infrastructure. When I say “YOUR WORLD”, I mean the people you interact or associate. When I say “YOUR WORLD”, I mean the people who also don’t see the problem you have as being a problem.
And that’s where the disconnect lies. In today’s lingo, it’s referred to as ‘your bubble’. Sometimes, the danger of being in your bubble is when you do or say something problematic, you don’t appreciate the impact because you don’t perceive the action as a problem and no one in your bubble perceives it as a problem so that reinforces your belief there is no problem.
So, the next time someone brings to your attention something you have done or said that they view as offensive, take a pause and consider. The action you did may have always been a problem outside of your world. This reality doesn’t mean that your world is WRONG. It just means you need to expand your world so you can have a broader WORLD VIEW. The more you see, the more you know.
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