Realizing a LEADER looks like YOU

Ask yourself this question.

What does a Leader LOOK LIKE to you???

Is it your supervisor in your office? The pastor or priest of your church? The president of your organization?

Or is it the dynamic, outspoken person who always challenges the system? Or the person everyone comes to when they need something done? Or the person everybody asks “what are you going to do?”

How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought “all of those people are NOT me?”

But before you write yourself off as not being a leader (which I have done countless times), take a look the moments you have done things others have not.

Maybe it’s the time you spoke up when no one else would. Maybe it’s the time you stepped in to help with a project that was going down in flames. Maybe it’s the time you agreed to do something no one else wanted to do.

The reality is that there are so many people who desire to be ‘thought of’ as a leader but are not really leaders. They relish the notoriety, the prestige, and the spotlight but don’t move the masses like you do.

You! The person who is not afraid to put themselves out there and look foolish. The person who is willing to take the weight of the world on your shoulders. The person who is willing to accept the good, the bad and the ugly and everything that comes with it.

Whether you know it or not, you are a leader not because you choose to be. It’s because you are meant to be. And others believe it. So it’s time you do as well.

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